Sometimes, you start digging into a topic and realize there’s so much more you can say than what fits in just a single article!
It’s almost as though the process of coaching to manifest great abundance brings it in every area of your life – including blog topics.
Last time, we talked about clearing up emotional baggage around guilt and shame.
And while guilt and shame are some of the lowest vibrational emotions, they’re not the only ones that can be related to emotional baggage.
In my work as a manifestation life coach, I help people manifest the life of their dreams.
In the process of understanding what your dream life actually looks like, you might , or even create a vision board to help gain clarity.
As you do, you’ll understand where you feel like your current life is lacking, and how to move forward from it.
Regardless of what you decide your dream life looks like, however, it’s a good bet it involves freeing yourself from the anchors of the past.
As in, freeing yourself from feeling burdened by your emotional baggage.
But of course, there’s more to emotional baggage than just guilt and shame.
If you think you understand quantum mechanics, you don’t understand quantum mechanics – Richard Feynman
One of the most exciting things about the field of quantum physics is how it’s calling into question almost everything we used to think we knew about the universe around us.
Many brilliant minds have devoted themselves to the study of this theory of physics, and how we can make sense of the contradictions between it and what we’ve come to call “classical physics”.
To me, one of the more interesting things quantum physics teaches us is that everything is energy.
That includes what we already thought of as energy – as in, light waves, electrical currents, etc – but it also means everything else is energy too.
Your home is energy, and so are the items in it.
Your pet cat is energy.
The car you drive is energy.
And of course, we ourselves are energy.
Have you ever met somebody new and immediately had a bad feeling about them?
Or walked into a room and felt a sense of unease?
In both cases, it’s hard to put your finger on exactly why you feel that way – you just do.
You’re picking up on the energy of that person, that place.
To build on this – if everything is energy, then so are our thoughts and emotions.
But what’s more – different emotions have different vibrational frequencies as well.
David Hawkins, in his book Power Vs. Force, shows the different energy levels attached to different emotions.
The emotions with the lowest vibrational frequencies are, of course, shame and guilt – which is why we started there in the last article on this topic.
On the other end of the emotional energetic scale, we find enlightenment, peace, and joy.
Everything else falls somewhere in between.
Today we’ll talk about some of the other low vibrational emotions as well, and how to clear them from your home – namely, regret – related to grief, and anxiety, related to fear.
Regret is the idea that your life today would be different, happier, healthier, better, had you made different decisions in the past.
At times it’s related to guilt, but it’s also closely related with grief, since the process of grieving is closely linked with wishing an event didn’t happen and coming to accept that it did, which is at the centre of regret.
This is a common experience to have, but it’s entirely unhelpful when it comes to manifesting the life of your dreams.
First of all, there’s no way of knowing whether or not things would have been better had you made a different decision.
Sure, you might have been happier if you took that job, or pursued that relationship, or moved to that new city, but your life might also have been a lot worse.
When you indulge in feelings of regret, you’re imagining an entirely idealized life that doesn’t have any of the frustrations of your actual life.
Because here’s the thing – nobody lives a life that’s free of adversity.
Regardless of how charmed your life is, you’re going to face hurdles, setbacks, and issues.
When you compare your current life – warts and all – with this idealized life, all you’ll do is make yourself feel worse.
Rather than hoping for a life free of adversity – impossible – it’s more important to learn to embrace life’s inherent uncertainties and accept that life isn’t always going to be perfect.
What does perfect even mean, anyway?
Maybe we’ll take a look at that in a future article.
This is the fundamental difference between gratitude vs toxic positivity – one pushes you to deny the emotions attached to adversity, the other accepts them, processes them, and helps you remain in a state of gratefulness for the positive things in your life even as you face adversity.
Regret is a normal thing to experience, and it’s not a “bad” emotion any more than joy and enlightenment are “good” emotions – they just are.
At the same time, regret isn’t generally a pleasant thing to feel, so it’s understandable to want to keep such emotions to a minimum.
What do you have around your house that makes you feel regretful?
Perhaps it’s a gift you received from a past relationship you wish had worked out differently.
Maybe you spent too much money on something that didn’t end up bringing you any joy.
It could even be a reminder of the career path you wish you’d taken, versus the more lucrative – but less fulfilling – one you’re currently in.
Floating in a sea of regret won’t help you manifest the life of your dreams – it will only keep you mired in the past.
Consider these items, and consider what feelings they inspire in you.
Are these feelings benefitting you?
Are they helping you manifest the life of your dreams?
If not, it’s time to let them go.
Our homes should be a source of comfort, of relaxation, of tranquility, even of creative inspiration.
But it’s hard for that to be the case when your home triggers feelings of anxiety.
Anxiety is a general feeling of unease, tension, and even fear, which is rooted in some future event that may or may not happen.
And while certain things can be an obvious source of anxiety – an upcoming exam, competition, or moving day – you might be surprised at what can also trigger such feelings.
A 2009 study by Saxbe and Repetti found that people who lived in homes they described as cluttered or disorganized also showed higher levels of cortisol – a hormone associated with stress and anxiety.
A messy and disorganized home can trigger a consistent fight flight or freeze response, which can affect the way you interact with the world around you.
Fight flight or freeze is also known as survival mode, and it’s one of the things that allowed us humans to get this far.
It kicks in when you face an immediate danger – like if you’re about to be hit by a car, for example – and helps you get to safety.
It does this by diverting energy from some of your body’s systems that aren’t needed at exactly that moment – like your digestive tract, your immune system, and your brain – toward your muscles and your ability to react.
This gets you in a state of high stress and anxiety, which is a great state to be in to get out of danger, but staying here long term can cause some significant health issues.
So a cluttered, untidy home causes anxiety, from a physiological perspective.
But beyond that, clutter can have emotional impacts as well.
A 2016 study by Cutting and Armstrong showed films to a group of people, with scenes of varying degrees of clutter.
It found that the more cluttered the film scene was, the more difficulty the viewers had reading the emotional state of the people in the film based on their facial expression.
Can this relate to spending time with people in the real world – as in, not in film?
Does a cluttered space actually make it more difficult for us to understand each others’ emotions?
One more study – this one from 2016 by Vartanian, Kernan, and Wansink – found that people in a cluttered, chaotic environment were twice as likely to choose to eat junk food than they were to pick healthier options.
Just like with the other emotions we’ve talked about, consider what the life of your dreams looks like.
Does it include persistent anxiety and stress?
Probably not, right?
So if you want to manifest the relationship of your dreams or manifest a healthier lifestyle, decluttering your home to help reduce anxiety is a great place to start.
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Emotional experiences will vary throughout our lives, and it’s never going to be 100% perfect, pleasant, and predictable.
That’s why it’s important, as much as possible, to create an environment geared toward inspiring higher vibrational emotions, and to build a more confident mindset to help you deal with such lower vibrational emotions as they occur.
Manifesting a confident mindset includes many things – breaking out of scarcity mindset and embracing abundance, practicing mindfulness and gratitude, embracing the law of attraction, and much more.
By reducing the clutter in your house that triggers lower vibrational emotions – shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, and anger, you can begin to manifest a life that involves more of the higher vibrational ones – enlightenment, peace, joy, love, reason, and acceptance.
But if life is a journey, it can sometimes help to have a guide along the way.
If you feel like you’re struggling to manifest the life of your dreams, you’re not alone.
I can help.