Last week’s article was Three Of The Most Important Ingredients In A Healthy Relationship.
And of course, maintaining healthy relationships is important.
But there are times, as well, where it makes more sense to end a relationship.
In relationship coaching for couples, the idea of ending a relationship sometimes comes up.
But while this might be a deeply uncomfortable prospect, it can also be exactly what you need to manifest a deeper level of happiness.
Going Against The Grain
The art of manifestation is, simply put, turning your dreams into reality.
But when you begin living your truth, you may end up finding it pushes back against the messages culture at large serves you.
We grow up with messages telling us that relationships are supposed to last forever, regardless of the circumstances.
How many times have you seen a movie or TV show where the main characters are a couple who stay together no matter how ill suited they are for each other?
Perhaps you’ve seen this in your family, where your parents or other loved ones remain married in spite of how clearly unhappy they make each other.
It’s even baked right into your wedding vows – ‘till death do us part.
But just because mass culture tells you something is what you’re supposed to do, that doesn’t mean it’s right for you to do it.
As you continue your work in manifesting your dream life – building your vision board, pivoting your language, and journaling and meditating – the picture of what that actually looks like will become clearer and clearer to you.
But your partner might not fit with that new vision.
And in that case, it may be true that your relationship has run its course.
The process of manifesting your dream life isn’t always a comfortable one – you have to be willing to let go of a lot of things along the way.
You have to identify and let go of your limiting beliefs.
You have to let go of the expectations you have of others.
You have to let go of the expectations others have of you.
You have to be willing to surrender control to the process.
And you have to expand your mind and deepen your manifestation practice.
Here are some signs your relationship may have run its course.
1. You’re Scared Of Your Partner
Let’s get this one out of the way right away.
If you’re experiencing spousal abuse, it’s important to get help.
Regardless of what they may have told you, you don’t deserve such treatment, and it’s not your job to fix your partner regardless of what traumas they may have suffered in the past.
Contact the Assaulted Women’s Helpline for help with how to escape an abusive situation.
2. Your Needs Aren’t Getting Met
When you visualize the romantic relationship of your dreams, what are you picturing?
Forget looks for a moment – what are the needs you have in a relationship?
These can include emotional needs, like quality time together and feeling like you’re a priority to your partner.
It can also include more practical needs, like being goal oriented or being good with kids.
If your partner isn’t meeting those needs, it’s time to communicate that.
However, how your partner responds is up to them.
It could be that they didn’t know they weren’t meeting those needs, or that they were even needs in the first place.
In that case, this gives them a chance to give you what you need out of a relationship.
But if they aren’t willing to put the effort in, it might be time to move on.
3. You Can’t Rely On Your Partner
Who do you go to when something major happens in your life?
Whether it’s a big win, or a big emergency, you likely have multiple people you turn to in such moments.
Is your partner on that list?
If not, you might have a problem.
4. Your Partner Isn’t Compatible With Your Dream Life
Sometimes, relationships end because of conflict.
Maybe you can’t stop fighting, or there was infidelity.
But that’s not always the case.
Sometimes, you and your partner just want different things out of a relationship.
That doesn’t make you or them right or wrong.
This simply means you see things so differently that being together is no longer desirable.
Maybe you’ve been working towards manifesting a healthier lifestyle, but your partner, perhaps unconsciously, encourages some of the habits that are holding you back.
Maybe you’re manifesting a more confident mindset but your partner’s sarcastic sense of humour tears you down a peg each time.
These are things that can be worked on, but if you feel that as a couple you haven’t made any progress, it’s time to re evaluate.
But even beyond that, there are situations where you and your spouse are fundamentally on the opposite sides of things.
Maybe you’d like to embrace a different religious or spiritual path, and your spouse is deeply religious and doesn’t accept you following a different path.
Maybe you’d like to have children, and your spouse doesn’t.
Maybe, after having gone through the process of getting in touch with what you really want out of your life, you come to the conclusion that you’re attracted to people of a different gender than your partner.
Whatever the reason, in some situations you may be able to find a way to connect and transform, and in some situations, it may not be possible.
And in such cases, if you’re committed to yourself and love you and your partner enough, it may be time for you to go separate ways.
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