Three Of The Most Important Ingredients In A Healthy Relationship | Evelina Hovich | Relationship Coaching

One of the most universal values we all hold as human beings is the desire for companionship and love.

Of course, the specifics of what that actually looks like is different to different people.

But the need is still there.

We’re social creatures – we evolved that way.

It’s what allowed us to get to where we are today – by cooperating with each other and working together.

But of course, despite this need being baked into our DNA, maintaining healthy relationships doesn’t necessarily come naturally to everybody.

As a  relationship and marriage coach and consultant in Toronto, I’ve worked with people from all walks of life, and I know this to be true:

Relationships take emotional work to maintain, and it can be complex and tricky to navigate.

That said, it’s within satisfying, healthy relationships that we as humans find our greatest joy in life.

Perfection Within Imperfection

When I first started writing this article, I was going to call it “Here Are The Most Important Ingredients In A Perfect Relationship”, but then, there’s really no such thing as a perfect relationship, is there?

And yet, within that imperfection you can find great beauty and joy.

I’m reminded of the Japanese aesthetic concept of wabi-sabi, which teaches us that, instead of constantly seeking the unrealistic measures of perfection and materialism, we can embrace imperfection as a source of great beauty.

All things in life are impermanent, incomplete, and imperfect – this includes us, the people in our lives, and even life itself.

To expect perfection in any area of our lives – our careers, our health, our mindset, and yes, our relationships – is not only unrealistic, it goes against the very nature of reality.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and yet, within the imperfection of our relationships, we can find such beauty, love, compassion, and joy – it can feel like perfection.

That said, some relationships may be more imperfect than others.

Disagreements with your partner – even heated ones – are normal, but when they happen too big or too often – or when you have a difficult time with forgiveness – it can cause much larger issues.

Even if we know our relationships will be imperfect, what can we do to make them more fulfilling for all parties involved?

1. Open, Honest Communication

Nobody knows anything about anybody if they don’t communicate it.

And of course, there’s more to communication than what we say.

But when it comes to a romantic relationship, communication is absolutely paramount.

You might think things are going great, but if your partner disagrees, this will lead to a fundamental gulf between the two of you that will be difficult – but not impossible – to bridge.

Talk to your partner.

Make your needs known, and make sure you hold space for your partner to make their needs known as well.

Communicating your needs with each other openly and honestly is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.

However, it’s going to be the case that yours and your partner’s needs come into conflict at times.

In that case, what happens is…

2. Understanding Disagreements

Disagreements are to be expected in any relationships, and your romantic ones are no exception.

Having different needs and opinions is what makes life interesting.

After all, you and your partner both have your own needs, and they won’t always mesh with each other.

However, disagreements can often lead to an argument.

But what does a healthy argument look like?

There’s so much to say on this that it could inspire its own article, but here’s a simple thing to keep in mind:

When you argue, it’s not you against your partner – it’s you AND your partner against a problem.

You’re both on the same team – you both love each other, and you both want the best for the other.

Keep this in mind as you disagree, and it will help you to see your partner not as an opponent, but as an ally in your goal of creating a joyous, fulfilling relationship.

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3. Deeper Connection

When you saw your partner for the first time, your attraction was a superficial one.

How could it not be?

At that point, you knew nothing about them except that you thought they were cut and you liked their vibe.

You might bond at first over shared interests, a similar background, shared goals, or a powerful sexual chemistry.

And while these connections can be fulfilling on their own, they can only take you so far.

If you find you’re having trouble developing a deeper bond with your partner, it’s possible the universe has something else in store for you.

In some cases, when we live in a mindset of scarcity vs living in abundance, it can push us to stay in a relationship that isn’t as deeply fulfilling as we know we deserve.

Unfortunately, this can hold us back from manifesting that deeper, more fulfilling relationship.

But just because you’re having trouble fostering a deeper connection with your partner doesn’t mean they aren’t the one for you.

Painful upbringings, betrayals in past relationships, unrealistic expectations, and more, can leave your partner feeling guarded and fearful of truly opening up in a relationship.

Curiosity, kindness, and help from somebody like a life coach can go a long way toward fostering a deeper connection with the one you love.

Developing a healthier confident mindset in relationships can help you and your partner to better face the world at large.

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Are you and your partner having trouble fostering a deeper, more fulfilling relationship?

Manifesting the relationship of your dreams is possible.

I can help.

Book your FREE connection call with me, Evelina Hovich, today.